What kind of person are you? Before you rush to read the next sentence please just pause for a moment and really think about how you would answer that. It might be painful to look that deep inside and search for a truthful answer but living in denial isn’t the answer.
Do you have your answer? Have you decided what kind of person you are?……. okay, now you can keep reading.
You may have decided what kind of person you are but how would your family or friends describe you or how about your co-workers? Are you fun to be around? Do people look up to you? If someone is in need do they seek you out? Who are you? Look at it from all angles.
I get worried that when I die there will only be a handful of family members at my funeral and they will have things to say like, “Well, Mike liked to scuba dive,” or “he had his own business“. Those statements are true but they don’t describe who I am. I don’t want to be remembered for the stuff I did or the activities I enjoyed – none of us want that. We want to be remembered by our personality and character.
The great news is that not only can you control what “stuff” you participate in but you can also control your character and personality. Yes, there are certain aspects of you that are hard-wired but much less than you might think. You can’t keep using, “that’s just the way I am” as an excuse for your behaviour, especially your bad behaviour. You have way more power over your personality than you think.
You can literally wake up tomorrow and be a different person. You can WILL yourself to be someone new and better. You don’t need permission, you don’t need a special supplement or elixir, you just need to decide. Your brain has enough raw power to take it from there.
Will you have a fight on your hands if you decide to be a new person tomorrow morning? You bet! Don’t kid yourself. Your body and mind will rebel and try to force you back in to your old, comfortable ways. You will also get resistance from your family and loved ones! They may not like the “new” you and you may hear things like, “you’re acting weird today” or “I don’t know if I like this new attitude of your’s“. By the end of Day One you will be exhausted and start to wonder if the new you is really that good of an idea. That moment right there will be the turning point. Don’t take it lightly.
Here’s a little experiment. Try filling in the blank of this statement;
“I am the kind of person who always ________________.”
What do you put in that blank? Truthfully now – what’s in the blank?
I’m the kind of person who always complains?
I’m the kind of person who always gives up at the first sign of resistance?
I’m the kind of person who always avoids people when they need help?
This won’t be an easy assignment. You need to face who you truly are. Where are you letting yourself down? Specifically, where is there a lack in your character that is effecting the quality of your relationships and your life in general? Don’t be afraid to speak it. The only way to start robbing this weakness of it’s power is to reveal it.
Now here is the exciting part! You can re-write what goes in that blank right this instant. You get to decide what kind of person you always are – starting from this point on. The past is gone and no longer has to have power over you. You can exert your power over your past with a pen and paper.
Right now decide what kind of person you always are.
I am the kind of person who always has an encouraging word for others.
I am the kind of person who always gives 100%.
I am the kind of person who always considers my health over my tastebuds or TV watching.
Isn’t that fun? Go ahead and give it a try. Write out what kind of person you will always be…..from this moment on! You get to re-write the script of your personality. You can make a clear, conscious decision to be the person you will always be.
As I mentioned, it will take your family and friends a while to get on board but please do not let that stop you or slow you down. If anything, let their resistance and their uncomfortableness propel you forward with even more determination to show them that’s not who you are.
Here’s your chance. Fill in the blank!